Who is Jayson Mair?
Jayson is one of Australia's favourite dating & relationship coaches and the founder of JMC - Jayson Mair Coaching. He founded JMC to be able to guide and assist people to build meaningful, happy lives with proven techniques, ideas and support.
Jayson has spent most of his life learning and testing what works and what doesn't. He has learned from some of the foremost experts in the Personal Growth industry like Brendon Burchard (pictured with Jayson in 2014) and Tony Robbins as well as inner voice experts like Blair Singer and psychologist/writer Angela Bradley.
His testimonials speak volumes. Hundreds of people from around the world, have gone from being in relationships where they saw no future, to renewing vows, getting married and enjoying many years of happiness. Others have discovered themselves and found the confidence to create new, fulfilling relationships they had previously only dreamed about.
Jayson has a down to earth approach that enables each client to feel secure and comfortable every session.
His commitment is to help each of his clients reach their full potential. He enables his clients to find whatever it is they've been searching for and become powerful and true to themselves.
So why not you - and why not now?
"My goal, my oath and my aim is to assist, support, motivate and empower as many people as possible, who are willing to step up and take control of their lives and to achieve their desired outcomes." |
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My story...
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Let me tell you a bit about me...
I was born in Melbourne and moved to Queensland when I was seven years old. My birth family was far from stable and by the time I was 15 we had moved 11 times. I could never understand why we moved so much but found out years later that they owed money to everyone! Funny though, we ALWAYS had two fridges stocked with alcohol and a cupboard full of cigarettes even though I had to hand my pocket money over for rent. Good work! I was never a priority to them and was never missed if I took off. I was gone for five nights once, preferring to sleep on the street, and when I got home the response was “there’s leftovers in the microwave and I’m going to bed”. No “where have you been” or “are you ok, we've been worried about you”. |
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Then one day I came home and found that there were boxes in the laundry and when I asked, “what’s happening” the reply was “we're moving next week and you've an extra 2 weeks after that to find somewhere to live but you're not coming with us”. WTF? I was 15 and they were leaving me? Well at least I wasn't going to miss the verbal and physical abuse and drunken arguments most weekends!
I had no idea what I was going to do. A mate of mine from work offered for me to stay at his house for a couple of nights and his mum didn't mind. So I stayed one night, then another, then another and stayed 7 ½ years. I learned here that family is not about blood. It’s about love and loyalty and to this day they are my family.
It wasn't a smooth transition to go from a family who couldn't care less to a family who would worry if I was going to be late for work or my underwear wasn't ironed before I wore them! I wasn't the best step-son at times. I could be really moody and hard to deal because I just never knew what care and love was before then. It took some getting used to.
I had no idea what I was going to do. A mate of mine from work offered for me to stay at his house for a couple of nights and his mum didn't mind. So I stayed one night, then another, then another and stayed 7 ½ years. I learned here that family is not about blood. It’s about love and loyalty and to this day they are my family.
It wasn't a smooth transition to go from a family who couldn't care less to a family who would worry if I was going to be late for work or my underwear wasn't ironed before I wore them! I wasn't the best step-son at times. I could be really moody and hard to deal because I just never knew what care and love was before then. It took some getting used to.
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Also at that time I hung out a lot with my three best mates from school. We become so close, the longest lasting friends I had ever known, and with my new family I was starting to understand how to trust and be happy.
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" Life was finally making sense and I felt I could finally relax and have fun."
Two days after Christmas, 1991, I was supposed to join two of these mates on a road trip up north in Queensland to pick up a motor to put in the my best mate’s car. I slept in missed the trip. I was kicking myself. Later that day I got a call. There'd been a shocking accident and one of my best mates was never coming back. He was the nicest guy you could ever meet.
Again, life made no sense.
Geez! Are you friggin serious? Just when I had faith in being able to care and love people, this happens? I went through all sorts of thoughts and grief stages. I blamed myself for not being in the car. Maybe if I'd been driving I could have said or done something to prevent it. Or maybe I could have been taken instead of him. I was lead to believe I was an idiot and never to amount to much. He was the kind of friend you looked up to. Not because he was cool or hip or the Jock at school. If anything, we were the kids that got picked on a lot, mostly me, but no we weren't the cool kids. He was just a really nice guy.
Again, life made no sense.
Geez! Are you friggin serious? Just when I had faith in being able to care and love people, this happens? I went through all sorts of thoughts and grief stages. I blamed myself for not being in the car. Maybe if I'd been driving I could have said or done something to prevent it. Or maybe I could have been taken instead of him. I was lead to believe I was an idiot and never to amount to much. He was the kind of friend you looked up to. Not because he was cool or hip or the Jock at school. If anything, we were the kids that got picked on a lot, mostly me, but no we weren't the cool kids. He was just a really nice guy.
"So yeah, by 20 I really wasn't thinking life was that great and was a bit off track."
I started to think maybe my new ‘family’ had taken me in because they felt sorry for me because I had no other option and they wanted to help me like a lost puppy. I didn't know how to deal with life after losing the bestest friend you could have. It took me YEEEAARS to understand why and what life was about.
After his death I found out that it was HIM that looked up to me. HE wanted to be more like ME! WOW! And I never got to tell him he was such an awesome friend to me. It was very tough. As so many of you who have lost someone would understand, even now it still gets to me. Sometimes it can be too late to let people know how you feel.
I then realised, you know what? What if I lose another friend tomorrow? What if I didn't wake up in the morning or didn't arrive home from work? How would anyone know what they meant to me? So I decided to tell everyone I loved how I felt … even if it was two in the morning after a few drinks … lol! (PLEASE tell the people who mean anything to you, how you feel about them or you may never get another chance.)
Still, as I grew, relationships weren’t my forte’ as I went through MANY more than I would like to admit. I never physically hurt anyone or cheated. I eventually discovered that my past had been hurting me. I thought I didn't deserve to be happy with someone, so I would seek out the damaged people and help them find themselves and happiness again, then let them go find it with someone else.
??? Yep. That’s what I said. I found damaged partners, helped them get better, and sent them off into the world without me. WTF? It’s because subconsciously I did not value myself, didn't love myself in any way. Even stated that I would not live past the age of 30. (I'm currently 42 years old and so glad I am still here)
After MANY failed relationships, pushing people away, I started to see sense. I wanted to do things differently.
I couldn't keep doing what I was doing. It wasn't getting me anywhere.
This is when I really understood how to be the best I could be for my friends, my family but most of all…for ME! From there, I took responsibility and started to make changes. I made sure I lived honestly and openly and was truly myself always,
even if some people didn't like it. I was no use to anyone if I wasn't myself. I had to fail MANY TIMES to learn that.
After MANY failed relationships, pushing people away, I started to see sense. I wanted to do things differently.
I couldn't keep doing what I was doing. It wasn't getting me anywhere.
This is when I really understood how to be the best I could be for my friends, my family but most of all…for ME! From there, I took responsibility and started to make changes. I made sure I lived honestly and openly and was truly myself always,
even if some people didn't like it. I was no use to anyone if I wasn't myself. I had to fail MANY TIMES to learn that.
"You finally go from childhood to adulthood once you take full responsibility for all your actions in your life"
It wasn't an overnight thing but it did happen and has taken most of my 42 years on this planet to get it right...
…I'm still fine tuning.
I now live in a wonderful spot on the Gold Coast in Australia and have the best, loving relationship with my beautiful girl that ticks all the boxes and more. I have travelled around the world, had some amazing fun and crazy adventures. I now value myself, my friends and family more than I ever have.
…I'm still fine tuning.
I now live in a wonderful spot on the Gold Coast in Australia and have the best, loving relationship with my beautiful girl that ticks all the boxes and more. I have travelled around the world, had some amazing fun and crazy adventures. I now value myself, my friends and family more than I ever have.
I also spend most days working with people who have been in a similar position in life. I help them see the light, get to the reality of their life and find the spark and love inside themselves so they can truly grow and live the life the have dreamed of but never thought possible.
Jayson
"Relationships are key to life. The relationships with others but most importantly the one we have with ourselves."
