A couple of years ago I was in the ‘city by the bay’, San Francisco, catching up with a good friend of mine. We were having a drink at one of the famous bars which has a view from Alcatraz around towards the Bay Bridge and Oakland.
As we sat there chatting, an "aha" smile came across her face. For those who are not sure what that is, it’s when you have a BIG realization or "aha" moment.
As we were chatting away, she realized it was 7 years earlier she had decided to move from her home country and study right there in Oakland at the famous Berkeley University.
She now lives and works in Boston as a teacher, has her residency in the States but she had only just realized it was an amazing accomplishment. When it happened back then seven years earlier, she wasn’t sure if it was the right thing to do but it was what she sooo wanted.
To move away from your family and friends to another country, to study and follow your dreams, not knowing if it was going to work out well, was a big risk but she felt deep inside that she needed to follow those dreams. So she did.
Seven years later she works full time as a teacher for a great school in Boston. She is making some amazing friends, she is leaving such an impact on all of her students with her care and her bright, bubbly smile and personality.
Reflection is such an amazing and beautiful gift we all should experience often in life.
Reflecting on relationships is a healthy thing to do, especially the relationship with yourself.
No matter where you are in your life, good or bad, ask yourself where were you three, five, seven or even 10 years ago?
What situation were you in back then? What have you achieved in your life and what struggles and challenges have you got yourself through when you thought it wasn’t possible?
What amazing things have you learned and enjoyed? What adventures have you had and what areas have you improved on? How have you become better within yourself through all of these events and made it possible to arrive right here right now as you read this?
THAT is what reflection is about. If you haven’t done this in a while then you must take THIS blog as a sign that you are overdue. Take the time to look back over the years and all the struggles you’ve survived. Remember all the rough times you never thought you could get through and then think about all the great stuff that you’ve overcome, achieved and experienced in that time. Take it ALL in. It’s all been a part of making you who you are today.
How strong have you had to be at times? What you are capable of from this day forward no matter what comes your way based on this experience? Celebrate it. Shout it from the top of a nearby hill or in your car and be proud of who you are. All of your life has been the making of who you are and will help you learn what you need to grow from today and everyday forward.
Yes, there will be ups and downs but you have all this experience that has taken you this far. How is that not enough to prove you can face anything that is thrown at you from now on?
So go out there, celebrate who you are, and take on tomorrow with all the guts and strength that you’ve gained from every day before now.
Have a fantastic day and stay true to yourself.
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